Don’t Count This One

The Count Every now and then, I have these scenes that re-play in my mind from various events in my life where I said something that was completely wrong. These words built barriers, caused trouble, hindered teaching, and washed out influence. But more than all those things, my careless words often hurt people that I love. 

Beyond being careless, sometimes my words have been mean and cutting. My tone has been fierce and my look searing. I regret all of this. I do not want in anyway to be the sort of person who does more harm than good by the things I say and the way I say them. This is not a flaw that I have conquered. In fact, I have struggled with it today. 

I think if we are the kind of people who don’t care that we slice people open with our words, then we don’t notice when it happens to us. I never used to notice that sort of thing. I’ve had people say, “Didn’t that hurt your feelings when they said…” I guess it didn’t because I had no feelings to hurt. But I must be gaining on it. 

Recently someone, whom I love and who loves me, said something that cut me to the heart. I was truly stunned to silence wondering if it had really happened – but it did. And you know, I didn’t deserve it. Like many victims of my verbal blitzkriegs, I was an innocent victim of a vaux bomb that left me sad. Not that it was said, but that I knew they didn’t mean it. It was fear, anger or frustration, but it wasn’t about me. I just happened to be handy. 

So it doesn’t count. The love between us deflected it and the shot landed harmlessly in the sea. Some people use the phrase “sea of forgetfulness.” This is not a biblical phrase, but there is an idea that when God forgives us, He forgives us permanently and He doesn’t call them back to memory. (See Hebrews 8:12)   

The Psalmist wrote, “Blessed is the man whose sin the LORD does not count against him…” Psalm 32:2 Perhaps there have been offenses that you’ve suffered unjustly, maybe even from me (man I hope not.) Could you decide to “not count” them against the person? Could you pray that our hearts will soften and we will come to know the harm that careless words can do? Let me encourage you to allow those undeserved shots and wounds to pass into that place where God sends the things that he doesn’t count against us.  

telemicus out

2 Responses to Don’t Count This One

  1. Penny Rose says:

    amazing how things are sent your way when it is needed the most. I had to read this several times, not that I didnt get it , but because I did. Words often hurt worse than a punch to the gut. You get over the punch when the pain stops. Words tend to find a deep place to sit. The not count rule is FORGIVINESS and meaning it. great point !

  2. Doug B says:

    Man,………………….. your timing is perfect. I believe you know that I love you. I want to tell you again…. I love you. Don’t want to imagine having to face my battles without you to talk to. Your brother always, Doug

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