The Courage of Brotherhood

Scott is my brother. He’s been a part of almost everything that I’ve done in my life that was cool. I was about 16 years old when he was born. So I’ve always been older by a good ways. But now we are both grown married men with kids. We share similar views (not matching) on music, religion, politics and sports. I counseled him when he was younger and he has counseled me quite a bit in recent years. We are both fierce in personality, passionate about what we believe and opinionated on a few topics.

Scott challenges me on many fronts. He steps in the path of my generalizations. He checks my impetuous comments. He rebuffs my over-the-top rhetoric and even questions my parenting at times. Because of our relationship, he has the liberty to do these things without damaging our friendship. For all these reasons and more, Scott inspires me to be a better person.


I think we each need a person in our lives that inspires us to be better people. Scott is certainly not the only person in my life that plays this role, but he is my brother and that is a big deal. The wise man said, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity” (Proverbs 17:17). Scott is my brother by blood, but also through adversity. We’ve been through some tough times and we’ve leaned on each other in those times. When life pounds us and seeks to break our honor and crush our courage, the relationship we share sustains us.


Take a look at these comments from a soldier concerning the reliance brother’s in arms while facing the horrors of being in a prison camp.

“Each man’s suffering was our shared concern, each man’s resistance our shared responsibility. We didn’t relieve one another other of the demands of honor. Each man was expected to resist to the best of his ability. But we relied on one another to strengthen our ability, to encourage us when we felt used up, to assure us that there was no dishonor in trying but falling short of how we perceived our duty in one instance, if we recovered and tried again. And we honored the chain of command that supplemented our own understanding of our duty, of its demands and its limits, so that we would not think ourselves cowards for having an exhaustible supply of courage. When we saw both our duty and our courage as common experience, our duty was easier to bear and our courage more at the ready. We completed one another’s sense of honor and it made us stronger.” – John McCain


I am fortunate to have people in my life who help complete my sense of honor and make me stronger. My family members all do this in some measure, but Scott does this in a special way. I am grateful for all of these and I depend on them to give me courage and to help me along the way. If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! (Eccl 4:10). Who is it that completes your sense of honor and makes you stronger?


telemicus out 

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